Frequently Asked Questions

It's always advisable to contact us directly if you have specific questions about what we do. For those of you looking for fast information however, here are answers to some of the most common questions we receive.

Matchmaking is an art that has been around for centuries. Despite its archaic background, matchmaking has shifted and grown to adapt to more modernistic relationship ideals. Even so, the focus remains the same: matching one single person to another, both of whom are hoping to find love with a partner in order to build a future together.

Bespoke and personal matchmaking is tailored to you. Forget about algorithms and trying to find your life partner based on appearances alone. Looking for marriage or a life partner online is time-consuming and hugely unreliable. We firmly believe that the online dating experience has been detrimental to a lot of people wishing to find true, fulfilling and lasting connections. At Your Mutual Friend, we personally interview all of our members to ensure that they are genuinely looking for a stable and long-term relationship, and we hand-pick compatible matches for you.

Moreover, contrary to online dating, your search for a relationship, using a matchmaking agency, is going to be private and confidential since you won't have online dating profiles floating around the internet. At Your Mutual Friend, we understand the value of your privacy and place the utmost importance on discretion and confidentiality.

In today's society it is difficult for a busy individual to meet people outside of their immediate business and social circles. Many have grown weary of their immediate social scene and would enjoy being introduced to a person of quality, with similar values and interests, by a mutual friend, which is in essence what our service is all about.

  • Personalized Service

    At Your Mutual Friend, we take a personalized approach to matchmaking. We believe that building a connection, understanding your personality and listening to your needs is the key to helping you find the partnership you desire.

  • Truly Tailor-made

    We customize your matches for you. We know that your time is valuable and that's why we carefully search and hand-pick your potentially ideal partner. We only introduce you to matches who have the greatest probability of a genuine compatibility. You are always in control of who you want to meet.

  • Dynamic Database of relationship-oriented singles

    We have access to a large and dynamic database of personally interviewed single men and women who are looking for a loving, stable and long-lasting relationship.

  • Sensibly Priced

    Our personal matchmaking service is priced very sensibly compared to the competition. At Your Mutual Friend, our aim is to help as many singles as possible find love. For this purpose, we've made our personal matchmaking service accessible at a cost that is often no more expensive than some of the popular online dating apps, offering you, however, a much more exclusive, sophisticated, confidential and secure way of meeting others.

  • Quality Service

    At Your Mutual Friend, we believe that long-term success is achieved by providing high-quality service to our members and clients. We listen carefully to your needs and through our hands-on, personal approach and dedication, we methodically match you with compatible people, creating a high ultimate success rate 'per introduction'.

  • Private, Confidential, and Discreet

    Gain peace of mind knowing that you don't have online dating profiles floating around the internet. At Your Mutual Friend, we don't have an online database of our members. Your information will only be accessible to our team of matchmakers and will only be shared with hand-picked, carefully thought out potential matches that we strongly feel could be right for you. We understand the value of your privacy and place the utmost importance on discretion and confidentiality.

  • Safe and Secure

    What matters to us is that our introductions make you feel safe, secure and excited. You are always in control of who you want to meet and, to ensure extra safety, we initially introduce all matches personally through a high quality video link.

Our initial consultation will help you understand a little bit more about the process and how it will work. It is important that you are open to finding love and your future life partner this way. Matchmaking isn't right for everyone - it is important you that feel comfortable with both the matchmaking team and the concept! During our initial meeting we can asses whether we are a good match and thus joining us would be the right decision for you, and us. We will be honest about whether we believe we can help you.

  1. Application

    The first step is to contact us. We will provide you with detailed information about our services and invite you to a short non-committal introductory meeting to get to know you and find out whether joining us would be the right decision for you, and us.

    Meetings take place over video chat.

    You can apply here or contact us at info@yourmutualfriend.com for assistance and free consultation.

  2. In-depth Interview

    After our short introductory meeting, we can proceed to an in-depth personal interview. Our aim is to learn more about you, your background, personality, values, lifestyle, interests, emotional availability, dating history, future relationship goals and, of course, what you are looking for in your future partner.

    The better we know you, the more effective we can be in defining our search criteria for your personal requirements, based on what's most important to you, and finding you your perfect match!

  3. Introductions

    Once your criteria are clearly defined, we will conduct an in-depth, customized search to find your potential matches. Only the most suitable potential matches will be presented to you. You are always in control and the approval of any profile is necessary both ways in order to proceed to an introduction.

    All matches are initially introduced through a high quality video link.

  4. Feedback

    After each introduction we will talk to both parties to get some feedback. We want to hear all about your experience. What went well and what could have gone better. You will be encouraged to be completely honest.

    This part of the process allows us to refine our search so that we can bring you closer to your perfect match. It is also a rare opportunity to get a perspective on how you are being perceived, as well as how to optimize your ability to make the best first impression. We believe in providing honest feedback to help you improve as a person.

Absolutely not! We understand the value of your privacy and place the utmost importance on discretion and confidentiality.

Yes. We personally interview every single member to ensure authenticity and commitment.

Once we have a match and both of you are interested in meeting each other, we will personally introduce you through a high quality video link.

Yes. We always follow up with both members of a match after an introduction, to get feedback and offer any advice that is asked of us. This part of the process is very enlightening for many of our members.

If you are currently struggling and unsure about your dating preferences, we always advise that you ask yourself two questions: what do I definitely want? and what do I definitely not want?

In our experience, it is imperative that as early on as possible you have a very good idea of what your non-negotiables are. These are preferences that you are not prepared to compromise on, no matter the opportunity being presented. Typical non-negotiables include whether or not you want to have a family, whether you are open to marriage, relocation, or if you are prepared to date someone with young children.

Only you can truly know whether you are relationship ready. Remember, we cannot provide a relationship - we can only provide an introduction. You need to have the time and energy to invest in making sure that you can develop that introduction into a stable and committed relationship. If the idea of this daunts you, or you don't feel that you have the time to invest then you're probably not ready to start your search with us for a life partner.

Not exactly. Some of our clients and members are more marriage oriented than others and are specifically looking for a partner for marriage, while others are looking for a life partner. Ultimately there is a common thread amongst them, and that is the desire to meet someone to build a future with.

We work with genuine singles looking for a loving, stable and long-lasting relationship. Our members include men and women, ranging in age from their early 20s to late 40s and primarily located across Europe and the US.

All over the place! Generally, our clients and members find us through search engines, social media, advertisements and we also attract a significant percentage of our members through personal referrals. While most of our members have sought us out, we do reach out to prospective singles through our own extensive professional and personal networks, social media and venues and events.

We are not for everyone, so we do want to ensure that we are a good match with our clients and members. We want to ensure that we can have an excellent relationship so that we can successfully navigate the matchmaking journey together. We only take on matchmaking clients who are ready and available for a serious romantic relationship. Also, in order to increase the probability of finding the right match for our clients, we want to know that they have realistic and reasonable expectations and that we do have the network of singles to find their match.

Our matchmaking service focuses on strong mutual matching; we need to see solid relationship potential before introducing you to someone. This can be a fast process, or sometimes slower, more methodical work. Respecting your time, we won't just throw random dates your way, with individuals who vaguely match up to your preferences and needs. Instead, you will receive handpicked quality matches, in their right time.

We work with both, paying and non-paying members. The difference is that for paying members, we actively search for potential matches, while non-paying members can, in general, only be matched with paying members, although occasionally we do match and introduce non-paying members together. At Your Mutual Friend, we've made made a conscious choice to help as many singles as possible find love and for this purpose we are trying to keep the cost of our personal matchmaking service as low as possible. Our standard paid membership costs €499 for 6 months.

You can apply here or contact us at info@yourmutualfriend.com for assistance and free consultation.

No one can guarantee you love and you should be suspicious of anyone who says they can. We do guarantee, however, that we will try our best to set you up with people who fit your needs. Eventually, your success will largely depend on you. We find most of our clients and members who are successful are those who approach this journey with an open mind and a welcoming heart.